.Transparent.

Jealousy in a relationship...Regardless of what others might do or say towards him.. Those question start to comes.. like...Who he will meet today at work? Lunch with whom? Talk to whom? Laugh with whom? Who he associate with? or Who he have relationships with? Who might be giving my partner attention? and to whom him may be more attracted to? Then, somewhere in your mind, you are questioning yourself. You will always be wondering about your looks, your intelligence, your relationship skills and all other factors that may break your relationship and make your lover go into another relationship.

Simple example,situasi mencemaskan when you begin to lie about little things(contoh, pasangan anda tanya anda wat ape arini...anda menjawab...satu hari ni saya kat umah..padahal ada la pergi kedai 5 minit kejap beli air ke..tp xbgtau....sbb xmenda pon kn..) what if dia dapat tau...mesti dia terpikir2..nape benda simple tuh pon x bgtau,it will end up dengan your partner disappointed, your partner will believe that you will lie about anything. When dealing with jealousy in a relationship, the best thing that you can do is be completely honest 100 percent of the time.

Either one partner is tired of always having to feel jealous from their lover’s actions, or the other partner gets fed up with always being questioned and hounded.

When in my mind there is a doubt..then I will feel threatening by looking others as a 'predators'..the feeling afraid of loosing..lack of self-confident physically..with all the words in mind about the negative stuff..then tend to hurt and torturing myself..that feeds me the mental images of the worst scenario and leaves me feeling angry, empty, dissatisfied.

I call it perasaan yang menyusahkan diri sendiri. It is about seeing 'normal situation scenario' with the creative over-active imagination...imaginary potential harm ...which is can bring the destructive to my emotions..my thought, my feeling and my behaviors..

I have to work with my own insecurities..sebab obviously 'xda menda' pon. Just diri sendiri suka cari pasal pikir benda negative..heeek~ (Syg...bby memang selalu pikir bukan2...biasa la..syg dia...risau...hehe)
So,I start doing this by discussing with him, without hesitation, everything in my mind. Any worry or jealous instinct I have should be exposed. Then ask that him do the same. If we can do this and be totally open with one another, that will give me the ability to discuss everything and decide where our relationship is going, and what it means, and therefore, whether or not my jealousy is founded or silly..

Masa awal2 hubungan lagi, Okhairu dah pesan...in our relationship,both of us must be' transparent'. I can talk about anything..and he would listen, he would try to understand and be cool.. Sebab dia xnampak ada kebaikan kalau x transparent dalam relationship ni. Yeah, he is right.Kalau x transparent its only can create a 'doubt' in a relationship. Decide together to be open with each other. Communicate your worst fears to each other and work through these fears to a positive outcome.Don't bottle it up.The way I say things is very important, so don't make a big deal out of it but be honest with him.

Faith is blind. Faith is a strong belief. It’s a feeling of warmth and loyalty you generate when you believe in yourself, your partner, your family or others.The best way to go about faith in a relationship is to give complete trust.Trust him until he gives you a reason not to.Doubt and not trusting will ruin any relationship.A healthy relationship is based on trust and faith.

Yesterday, you remind me again about 'our plan'. I'm relief.
Love you my dear.

xoxo
Love Lin.